They say sometimes it is easier to conquer a fortress than to conquer someone's heart. There are people that are pretty difficult to be 'caught', their heart is like a stone and no matter what you do, you will have a trouble getting the warmth out of them. For some people, only a good word is needed, a warm touch and caring person next to them.
But, yes, there exist forts that are also difficult to be conquered. There is a trouble about getting them down, about defeating some night or a king. Have you ever thought why are they actually made like that? They look scary, look difficult to be touched and defeated.